“Are you sure that your wife is not the suspicious type?”
When reflecting back on relationships they’ve started outside of their normal committed relationships with a wife or serious girlfriend, there are many things men say they wish they’d known before starting the relationship in the first place instead of learning it as they went. These things range from common sense tips, like don’t get caught, but some are a little less thought of and a little more on the psychological side, involving changing the way you think before you try and get involved with a woman outside your normal relationship. Keep these widely followed pieces of advice in mind when carrying on an affair and you’ll be just fine.
1. Cover your tracks. One thing you should know before you start any sort of extramarital affair is that it’s absolutely essential to cover your tracks. Unless, of course, you want your girl to find out you’re sleeping around behind her back, because in that case, go right ahead and leave your phone laying around with those incriminating messages or tell your other girl she’s free to call you at any time and risk your wife picking up the phone. You need to make sure you delete any evidence that could lead your wife or girlfriend to suspect for any reason you might have someone on the side.
“Keep your cell phone clean”
2. You will have close calls where you almost get found out – accept it now and you won’t panic as much later on in the relationship when it happens. No matter how smooth you are, and how much you think you’re covering up everything, when you’re first starting out and trying to juggle a committed relationship with a fun fling on the side there will be things you forget. You might delete the messages but not hide the cell phone bill with the call logs, or you might forget that the restaurant you’re taking your extramarital fling to is the same one where your wife’s sister goes to every Tuesday night and risk almost getting caught and found out. Before you get the hang out the whole sneaking around thing, it’s totally normal for these close calls to happen, and while you can usually get out a tight situation without any issues, it’s best to see it as a learning experience for things to avoid in the future with your fling.
3. Don’t change your routine too dramatically, even if you’re trying to fit in spending time with a new girlfriend. It might be tempting, when you’re caught up in spending time with a fling after you’d wanted her for so long, and a lot of men fall victim to it. However, one of the easiest ways to get caught is a dramatic change that can’t be explained by work or other social situations; the chances of you and your new girl getting found out are raised significantly. Make sure to try and make things seem as normal as possible in your home life while still having your added fun on the side.