When you’re in the wide world of Internet dating, you are not alone. There’s a ton of competition on most online dating sites and it can seem pretty vicious out there. When you’re trying to get a woman’s attention you can be 100% certain that you’re not alone. Not only that, but you have no real way of knowing what you’re up against unless you spend time looking at other dudes profiles (and no one wants to do that). The thing that you need to put you above other men who are emailing babes is a good first email. Your first email needs to be simple, short, and direct without being pushy or demanding.

Short Emails are Best

When women have online profiles out there, they get lots of emails. The best babes can clock in tens of emails a day, sometimes more than even that. A lot of the chicks that we’ve talked to say that they actually have a spam email box for certain dating sites and they sometimes go through and just cull emails at random. What’s the one thing that they cut first? Wordy emails. This means that if you want to be seen, you need to keep it short and sweet. Try to keep that first email under 600 words at the very most. You want to keep it simple and to the point. Say why you noticed her, introduce yourself then leave an offer to contact you again open.

One Email, Not Fifteen

Once you’ve sent that first email, keep a running tally of it. Most dating websites will actually do this sort of thing FOR YOU. You don’t have to do anything except not bother the same person multiple times. The other thing that babes do is they look for people who have emailed them multiple times and then they delete or block the offending spammer. Sending a first email nineteen times is not the mark of a passionate man, it’s the mark of a totally desperate one or a dude who is sending out so many first emails that he doesn’t realize he’s talking to the same chick again and again. Keep track of who you send your email to and don’t bother her again for a while.

Relaxed Tone is Best

Chicks do not respond well to pressure. This is getting truer every day. When you tell a woman that she is going to contact you and you WILL go out, what usually happens is she WILL delete your email, she WILL mock you to her friends and she WILL THEN block you. That’s not what you want and it won’t get you anywhere. So what you do instead is keep the offer to hang out at the end of the email casual. Make it sound like you were planning to do what you wanted to do with her alone anyway. If she doesn’t feel pressured, she’ll be more likely to want to hang out. A woman that’s comfortable enough to hang out is going to be comfortable enough to possibly go on a date.