“Make small gestures”
Caught up in the allure of an affair, of having a beautiful woman to spend time with, many men are eager to please the woman they’re having an affair with. This is completely normal, and if you both are in committed relationships, a little excess spending is almost essential. You’ll have to pay for hotels to stay in for the night, taking her out to restaurants farther away from your normal home area so no one sees you and recognizes you, and if you travel for your work and want to bring your other woman with you, you’ll have to pay travel expenses as well. The worst thing for you, however, would be for your wife or girlfriend to find out how much money you’ve been spending with no viable explanation and for you to not have a reason made up for it. That’s one of the quickest and most often seen ways that men are exposed when having affairs.
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“Take her out for shopping”
You don’t want to be the kind of man who comes off as cheap when trying to treat your other woman. Why would you want to be like that? You took the time to chat her up and attract her, get to the point where she doesn’t care if you’re already married or in a committed relationship, she just wants to be with you – to let that go to waste by not treating her well and making her seek another man to have an affair with would just be silly. The key is to spend the money on her that’s necessary; take her on dates and out to do things that she enjoys doing, or to her favorite restaurants, just don’t go overboard. You would probably be able to explain one hundred dollars, maybe even a few hundred, but dropping a few thousand on that necklace your other woman has been eying when you walk around the mall is probably not going to be something you’ll be able to explain easily.
If you and your wife or girlfriend do not share a bank account, it’s a little easier to get away with this and you don’t have to worry as much about explaining where the money went, because unless you’re in dire financial straits, she might not even realize the money is missing. This doesn’t mean that you need to go overboard, though – a simple present every once in a while if you like her and are wanting to spoil her will be sufficient, and if she’s not greedy and isn’t with you just for your money, she’ll probably be happy with that. If she’s the kind of girl who wants an expensive piece of jewelry or even a new car after you’ve been involved for a week or two, you might be in too deep. This isn’t the Middle Ages, you’re not providing a dowry to try and get her to be with you – she’s already there. You can spoil her without cleaning out your entire savings account; it’s all about controlling yourself without being stingy.