“Affair serves as a catalyst to a successful marriage”
There are many men out there who are unsatisfied with the current state of their relationship and want to have an affair for sexual, romantic or other personal reasons. If you’ve considered it or even gone ahead and done it, you’re not alone. In fact, you’re like a vast majority of the male population who are in loving relationships with women where the only problem is that for whatever reason they aren’t stimulated enough. There are some men, though, who are wary of starting up an affair because they feel that it’s rude to their wives or girlfriends and are worried that the guilt will eat them alive if they did something like that. Having an affair usually indicates that there’s something lacking in a relationship, or maybe even that you’re just bored – neither of which are things to be ashamed of, and for some relationships (especially long-married couples) an affair can be just the thing to remind you how good you have it.
“After having an affair you will find increased happiness with your wife”
Sometimes, one partner having an affair can have a “get it out of your system” effect. If you’re tempted by the cute girl at your work or the beautiful, lonely looking woman you see at the bar each time you go and get a drink to unwind, it might be in your best interest (as well as your long-term relationship’s best interests) to get it over with and get it out of your system. Although you might feel guilty at first, it shouldn’t be anything that’s too crippling – if you don’t carry it on for too long and break it off with no drama and no repercussions, it’s not something your partner even needs to know about. Once you do it once, it’s no longer a struggle just to do it once so you have the experience, because you know what it’s like. This will lead to you being less distracted by every cute girl that walks your way, though it can occasionally have the opposite effect and will make you more confident to pursue other affairs if you want to. But really, what harm would that be?
On the other hand, it can serve as a catalyst to some long-term relationships and marriages. If you feel your marriage is lacking something, then you might have an affair to try and add that something you’re missing to your life with another woman. Whether your infidelity is discovered or if it’s a secret you never reveal to your spouse, it can sometimes serve as a way to make you step back and think, acting as a sort of catalyst leading you to improve not only your way of thinking, but your entire marriage as a result. Many men have reported that after having affairs, they found increased happiness with their wives and despite having found another woman for a period of time, had no desire to split up with them. It sounds like a roundabout way of doing it, but for some stubborn couples it’s one of the best ways to recognize that a change needs to be made.