Yes, we’re sure your mother told you what a great and interesting person you are just for being yourself, but this is the real world. If you want to get laid by the hottest girls, you’re going to have to make yourself look like an attractive package that a girl WANTS to go after.
Fortunately, there are many ways to do this. When you first decide to have an affair, you might not know where to start. The best place to start is by creating your “Persona.”
Your persona is the YOU that you create in order to have an affair. It’s a kind of role-playing, and the girls you meet on affair dating sites know that. You’re acting like their perfect man (for a fling), and they’re acting like the version of themselves they think you’ll like the best. That’s what all dating is, or you’d show up to every date in your sweatpants with a bag of chips in one hand and your smartphone hooked up to football scores in the other.
When you cultivate your affair dating persona, it’s actually a lot less work than it was cultivating the persona you used for meeting your wife. After all, you don’t have to worry that she’ll find out the truth eventually. If she does, you can just dump her. You’re not looking for a lifelong commitment here-you already have that from your wife.
Picking a date spot is crucial.
If you can pick a good and interesting date spot, you’re well on your way to looking like the classy gentleman your new girl thought she was meeting when she signed up for an affair dating site. Here are some of the best dating spots for meeting a new girl when you’re a married man:
1. A museum.
One of the things younger women, and women who go for married men, are looking for is a man with knowledge they don’t already have. Whether you know much about art or not, you will definitely look cultured if you can take this babe to a museum. If you don’t know anything about art, you have two options. Your first option is to learn a bit about JUST ONE specific artist, time period, or even painting before you go. That way you can impress her with your knowledge, and when you don’t know anything about another piece, just claim that you’re very specialized in your knowledge. The other option is to admit that you know very little about art history, but that you want to discover it together. Now that you’re older and more settled, you can tell her, you’re interested in learning about the finer things, the way you never got to when you were younger and had a more chaotic life.
Bonus museum tip: Stick to a classical museum. Modern art is very hit-and-miss as a date.
2. The Theater
This one can be a bit more tricky if you don’t know what you’re doing. Take recommendations from the Internet-don’t ask your friends for dating advice if you can help it! No, you can’t cover that up by saying you’re asking for your wife. It could eventually get back to her that you were asking about the theater, and she’ll know for a fact she never went. However, if you see a nice play, concert, or ballet with your wife (earning mega brownie points), feel free to re-use the location. Going to any kind of a live performance makes a girl feel special, so don’t count this one out.
Bonus tip: Head out of town for this date. You’ll probably find more options a bit farther away, and your chances of running in to anyone you know are exponentially slimmer.
3. Jazz club, poetry club, dance lesson, etc.
You want to be the cultured guy in her life, not the obnoxious beer-guzzling frat boy. The added benefit of all these locations is that you’re coming across as a very smooth person, and you’ll start to feel like that very smooth person. This is a huge help when you’re trying to cultivate your persona for the first time.
Bonus tip: Taking a class can help you bond-and the best part is, women love a man who admits he doesn’t know everything.
One of the biggest mistakes men make when cultivating their new persona is by making it too complicated and getting confused.
Keep it simple. Change your last name, but not your first name!
Nothing is going to make it more obvious that you’re lying to a girl than if she says your name and you don’t so much as flinch. Your last name doesn’t matter so much-changing it just means your girl on the side won’t be able to look you up easily and find out where you live, about your family, etcetera. It keeps you safe, and you don’t have to sacrifice your identity.
Think of your persona as a buffer.
Your persona helps you keep your married life separate from your dating life, which is all you need to keep yourself safe.